Long-distance relationships (LDRs) are a bizarre concept.
How to Deal With Long-Distance Relationships
After all, being figuratively ‘together’ but physically apart are completely conflicting ideas. However, modern life is forcing more and more couples into this situation. Relocation of jobs, studying at different universities, meeting on UK dating sites, holiday romances – these are just some of the scenarios that force couples to live apart. However, modernity has also provided us with loads of ways to have a full and happy LDR. Here are a few methods couples use to deal with distance:
Constant Communication
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Speaking at least once a day is a great way to nurse that craving for each other. Plus, with the wonderful world of the internet there are many ways you can chat for free. Facebook, msn, Skype – the possibilities are endless. Try to vary your communication to keep it interesting. One really nice way to say a surprise hello every so often, although it will take a bit longer, is to send a parcel with a letter and a few lightweight gifts. Keeping in contact is essential for keeping anxiety and jealousy at bay – feelings that can all too often poison long distance relationships.
Webcams
Buy a webcam. It helps so much to be able to see each other – if your camera is good enough quality it will be like your other half is in the room with you! Set up a Skype date and watch a whole film at the same time, or set up your laptop whilst you’re doing food prep – it’s a great way to feel like you’re actually present in your partner’s everyday life. Be careful, though – it can also make you miss each other a lot more!
Planning in Advance
If you see each other once a month, make sure you spend some time leading up to the visit planning. For example, arranging candlelit dinners, days out and walks along the river if you’re dating Belfast people is a great way to take your mind off each other’s absence. Also, if you prepare and book weeks ahead, travel tickets will be so much cheaper, meaning you can afford more visits.
Left Luggage
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Every time you visit, leave something behind. Permanent fixtures might include a toothbrush, something to sleep in, a pair of heels and a warm jumper. This really helps you feel at home when you get there. It’s also comforting to have some of your partner’s stuff around when you miss them – to wear or to sniff depending on the severity of your withdrawal symptoms!
The Solution
Never stop thinking and talking about solving the problem of distance. The relationship cannot work like this forever, and having an achievable end solution where you will both live together in the same place is essential to keep it going.
Don’t let an LDR get you down. The above coping mechanisms will help you stay together and manage your emotions until you can find a solution to your situation.
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My hubby and I survived 2 loooooonnng years of LDR!!! Everyday, we never miss to text or call each other, it was costly but it was all worth it! now, we’re forever together! pssssttt… kay B ni noh? hehehehe…
te, kinsay B?
awww :’) medyo naka-relate ako. lol. before i got married, my then-boyfriend-now-husband did a year of LDR. he moved to the States to do his residency, while i was left in Canada. it wasn’t much of an LDR because we’re basically just 8-hour drive away from each other (so parang manila to baguio lang). we did all those you mentioned above (hence, nakarelate). hehe! we had dinner together every day over skype (except when he’s on call/night shift). he visited me every month, and the rest is history…
ayan, nag-travel down the memory lane tuloy ako dito, ms. gagay at napakwento pa
No Prob Mommy KM!
hehehehe.. kami din bf ko ngaun, medyo LDR din kasi he’s in Mindanao now and am just here in Cebu..
but that was only since last August..and until now, we haven’t see each other yet..waaaaaaaaaah! mag three months na..hahaha!!!
I was into two long distance before, the first one did not work and the last one, I end of marrying her. @ years of LDR then we are now married for 2 years as well. I wouldn’t say that it is easy but it is not that hard as well though it is tough but you just have to constantly adjust and increase your patience.
Long distance relationship is hard but if you have trust with each other, the loneliness can be cope up. There are ways to catch up like you shared here. Great ideas and keep the love on fire
LDR is difficult indeed, sad to say nakalimtan ko..waaaa well, it is his lost not mine..:-)
LDR – hmmmm I have been into two long distance relationship and yes it was so hard. I mean hey, you really need to have time for each other even though you are far away from each other and yes, you should hold on to that bond, to that love, as long as you can to keep the fire burning…
I had LDR a couple of years ago, obviously, it didn’t work. We had all the gadgets for communication, but still it didn’t work. The real and true gadget to be used for LDR is the word ¨TRUST¨.
Once I had a LDR, however, due to some constraints I was taken aback. Maybe, if he pursued me I guess we ended up together.
Hello Gay,
I am so much into this thing LDR now, but sadly its been more than a month since our last talk. So now I just presumed that he already forgets me. I wouldn’t make the first move. Because I always believe that if he really loves me, he would find ways that lead to me.
But looks like he already cuts the line and we’ve go on our separate ways. So until now in search pa rin ako. WAhhhhh
Thank you much
Lady
Boyfriend and I dated long distance for more than a year before I finally decided to give migrating to Sweden a try. Because we trust and love each other for real, long distance relationship wasn’t a hindrance at all. Everything came easy. Of course, with the help of technology [we e-mail each other a lot. Chat/video chat --- not much] communication had been regular.
We also send each others snail mails twice or thrice a month which was way cooler than e-communication.
have a fun day, doc GG!
I can relate. Open communication is very important in a long distance relationship. This post made me nostalgic.
I actually haven’t tried having a LDR relationship but I definitely agree that having an open communication plus this helpful tips could help strengthen one’s long distance relationship.